It goes without saying that you should foster because you want to help kids. That is a benefit in itself. But there are a few other things that I have found as benefits for fostering. What else would you add?
1. As long as you're loving and taking care of your foster child, you can say, "hey, I'm doing a good thing". I would even recommend telling yourself this often because it does get HARD... so say it often. 2. You can learn new levels of empathy. You meet people from so many walks of life, who have faced so many challenges. You suddenly look at other people who you meet and think about what challenges they may have encountered. 3. Fostering teaches you patience like nothing else can. Foster kids—honestly any kids—will teach you to have so much patience. But then there's the "hurry up and wait" game that happens throughout the fostering process: The wait to get licensed. The wait to hear about your first/next placement. The wait to understand their permanency plan. You learn to take a deep breath and go with the flow. 4. You can learn to manage way more on your to-do list. I thought I was busy with my full time job, husband, bio kid and family responsibilities. But add in regular CPS visits, CASA visits, doctor visits, school visits, bio family visits and 4 weekly therapy sessions—plus, you know, actually loving your kids—and you'll feel like a easy day is one where you just have to drop off/pick-up at school, go to work, cook dinner and do laundry. 5. You can learn how to be a better advocate for others (and for yourself!). I have always been a fairly good advocate for myself, and for my bio—but there's nothing like a kid in high need to make you sharpen every advocacy skill. While I make sure never to be rude, I also make sure all of those who help make decisions for our foster son know that I will fight for his best interest every step of the way. I've found myself transferring those skills a bit to my own life too! 6. You can learn to let go of things you can't control. I have a tendency to want to plan way ahead and figure out all the details for everyone and everything. It's honestly something that makes me good at my 9 to 5 job, but also has the ability to drive people in my personal life (particularly my husband) crazy. You may even call me a control freak. But not knowing if our foster son will be with us for a week or for the rest of our lives (if we adopt him), that changed things. I've learned to let go of things I can't control—that there's literally no time to stress or worry about them—I just have to savor every moment I can. |
AuthorI'm a foster mom, bio mom, working mom, special needs mom, busy mom. I'm also married to my high school sweetheart, I'm a proud 23-year childhood cancer survivor, and I'm passionate about serving my community. More from FosterMamaArchives
February 2023
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